The whole point of life is to level up. That is, everyday we must strive to be better than who we were yesterday, not only to increase our chances of survival - evolutionarily speaking, but to enrich the lives of ourselves and others right now. Nowadays many of us have grown accustomed to the luxuries of modern life, and thus we remain in our comfort zones, disconnected from our primal nature. And yet our potential for personal transformation has never been greater. How can we embrace our evolution and look at our successes and failures as equal opportunities to learn? How we can avoid setting goals only to feel a sense of fleeting accomplishment when we achieve them? We must become more conscious and reconnect with ourselves. And in doing so we equip ourselves with the tools to create the life of our dreams.
Many of us have an inner voice that we feel we could listen to more. And it is likely that the source of most of our problems is this reluctance to follow it. We often blame procrastination for leading us astray, destined to repeat the cycle of not following through with all the things that we want to do. In order to break the cycle, we must leverage the power of the most complex organ in the known universe, our brains.
The brain is a world builder. And to begin our self development, we must first create an image of our future, or an attractor. The term is borrowed from within the mathematical field of dynamical systems. An attractor is defined as a set of numerical values toward which a system tends to evolve, for a wide variety of starting conditions. The value of the attractor in terms of your self development is self-evident, it attracts. It does this by reframing your perception from wanting or doing, to being. Before going into detail about the benefits of attractors, I want to review two approaches to self development that fall short and the reasons why.
Goals
While there is utility in writing down your goals, they can often be vacuous. With goals you have built a frame of I want, and thus you are inevitably reminded of what you don’t have, and while that may act as a motivation to go towards creating a reality for yourself where you have the things you want, it can be a false promise. Imagine the number of instances where you have said to yourself, if only I had x, then I would be happy. If only that were true. Instead, the achievement of your goals can be anticlimactic. Oh wow, you finished the marathon Peter, do you feel any different? Oh wow Peter, your birthday is today, do you feel any different? You realize that it’s not in the arbitrarily set milestone, it’s in the journey to get there that you feel more connected to something greater.
Systems
The systems based approach is better in some aspects compared to strictly setting goals. By focusing on what skills you can develop over time vs. what short term goals you can achieve, you build a perception of I do, and thus you are identifying with your action and the direct impact those actions have on your life. This allows you to make progress over time regardless of whether you encounter failures, because instead of the goal being the goal, you develop transferable skills that can be applied to overcome future challenges. However, the systems based approach is inextricably linked to goal setting. I simply have the goal of becoming a better runner, instead of setting an arbitrary goal of finishing a marathon, I will develop a system of trying to run each day whilst increasing my mileage slowly. Over time I will be equipped with the tools to finish the marathon. The best runners spend most of their time running if possible, thus their system becomes training as much as possible without injury. If you are just interested in completing the marathon, you may focus on becoming a better athlete overall, which will grant you the capability of running 42 km while potentially having a balanced repertoire of movement patterns at your disposal. In this circumstance it is clear that following a systems based approach will allow you to develop a broader range of skills. Ultimately, neither thinking what skills can I develop or what short or long term goals I can achieve is going to create the optimal conditions for you to tap into your highest potential. It is time to realize that it’s not in the milestone, it’s not in the journey... it’s in your self perception.
Attractors
The brain is a world builder. And we can use this feature to create a world that we are attracted to. In the creation of our subjective worlds we rely on others to build a sort of consensus reality which imposes limitations on our perception. The scope of the effects of these preconceptions can affect our outer and inner worlds, potentially imposing a self-limiting view of ourselves. Attractors represent the creation of your ultimate vision; whereas in some sense you can create goals and systems without having a vision. To have faith in your vision, is to build a perception of I am. Imagine two twins running a race and they are identical in every way, same nutrition, genetics, and training. The only difference is that while one followed goals, the other one has a vision, a faith. Which one will have the edge? The mind is a powerful thing, the one with faith will have an edge over the other twin because they are connected to something deeper, something pulling them forward. You have three choices, you can not believe in yourself, you can believe in yourself, or you can believe in the ideal of yourself. This latter kind of belief is a transrational self belief, in the sense that it is beyond rational thinking. That’s why they call it a leap of faith.
"Nature rewards courage." - Terrence McKenna
You are that person; you are just doing what they did in the past to become who they were in the future. The attractor is your destiny; you must grow into your destiny, regardless of your failures. Failures are seen as an important part of the path to success. Everything is framed in light of the integrity of your future self having made it through all of this. It may be beneficial to establish a level of schizotypal thinking and dialogue with your future self to guide you on the path of being yourself. Goals and systems will not be able to motivate you the same way as creating a reality where you are fully aligned with your inner voice. That future self will act as an attractor. Think of how the zygote develops into an embryo, then a fetus, and then a child. During the process there may be a few mistakes, like the creation of a birthmark, yet the process will likely lead to the successful birth of a child, imperfections included. You can imagine that the cellular processes during the development of a newborn are not only successful insofar as they are in the right place at the right time but simultaneously the DNA acts as a holographic storage device of the finished result. This holographic projection is the attractor.
Ultimately the power of attractors lie within moving the goalpost of success. When setting goals, you self-identify with success once having achieved the goal. When following systems, you self-identify with success based on your adherence. When in a state of attraction, you self-identify with success based on your emotional and intellectual congruence with who you are in comparison to your attractor. By shifting your perception from I want to I do to I am, you are essentially reducing the dissonance between where you are and where you want to be. In I want perceptions, you are only satisfied by some future state. In I do perceptions, you are only satisfied as evidenced by your commitment to certain behaviors. In I am perceptions, you are only satisfied as soon as you are congruent with your attractor. You can be whoever you want to be, but be that person, take responsibility, take action, evolve. The attractor is not a fixed state, it represents the embrace of the journey, a cycle of continual evolution.
We are able to achieve goals or utilize systems mainly by being in the right place at the right time, but attractors represent goal states through which multiple starting points at varying times can manifest and lead to the same conclusion - there are many paths to the top of a mountain. On a surface level, goals and attractors appear the same, however the difference is that the journey towards the attractor is part of your process, where a goal is something you achieve as a result of things separate from the goal. I am training for a marathon vs. I am a marathoner. An attractor is to the relationship between a black hole and a nearby star, as a goal is to the relationship between a lion and it’s prey. The lion must chase the prey down and has to make certain adjustments to achieve that goal state, whereas the planet is inevitably consumed by the black hole due to the fabric of the universe. That fabric is your faith. As time goes by, your vision crystallizes, you become more in tune with the reality of who you are, and more courageous to follow the earth’s heartbeat - to continue... to level up.
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